Each of you plays a role in a family business. You are either involved in a partnership that is developing and producing a product (a child), or you are the product of a family business.
We place a high value on people who are successful in their business. We look at those individuals who start out with very little and grow it into something wonderful as self-made men/women. We place their glossy pictures on the cover of magazines and relish their stories of great success.
Our measuring stick for achievement places a high value on what is accomplished inside of the board room, by the amount of money in a person’s bank account. But think about this for a moment…what have they given up to accomplish that dream? Have they been married multiple times and lost touch with their children in the process of becoming a business mogul?
I have heard my father say many times, “If I fail as a father, then I have failed at life.” And as a young man I used to take that very seriously…as if in some regard his success was measured by me. Then I became a father, and began to understand what he was talking about.
My father’s priority was not to accomplish what others might have seen as his greatest work, but to make sure that his children were prepared to succeed in every aspect of life. So, with the same intensity that a businessman or businesswoman would go to work each day, you as a father, as a husband, as a mother, as a wife…must invest yourself in your family business.
There are many correlations between running a business and running a family. And there are many expenses in each. The owner (or the mother/father) has the most skin in the game. They have the most to lose in any given situation. They are the most invested in a positive outcome.
If you have a pastor, friend or family member that is more invested in the success of your children, in the success of your family…then your home “business” is backwards. It’s time to spend some serious time on your knees asking God for new direction.
Matthew 19:1-6 tells us, “Now it came to pass, when Jesus had finished these sayings, that He departed from Galilee and came to the region of Judea beyond the Jordan. And great multitudes followed Him, and He healed them there. The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?” And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”
There is a right way and a wrong way to do everything. There is God’s way and the world’s way. The Bible, God’s Holy Word, gives very clear instructions about what God expects of parents regarding how to raise your children.
A husband and wife team are a 50/50 partnership. They leave their home and cleave to one another (Genesis 2:24). This is a Kingdom of God franchise, and the Bible is the quality control manual that tells you what is expected of your franchise. It says that you are to be fruitful and multiply (Genesis 1:28).
This is not only a biblical issue, but a societal issue as well. One of today’s greatest challenges is that we are having fewer and fewer babies…and we are living longer than our ancestors.
My wife, Kendal, and I made a business decision to have four kids. At some point in my life, I’m going to need some help making decisions. My oldest girl is very compassionate and tender. She always wants to make sure that mom and dad are well taken care of. My oldest son is courageous. He’s always willing to take a stand for what is right. My next son is very deliberate and aggressive. If something needs to be done, he’s the man for the job. And my baby girl is just getting started. We call her the “fire cracker” because she’s small and she will go off.
So, in my old age, at some point, if my children have to sit down to make a decision for me…between the four of them, it will be a good decision.
God wants you to enjoy heaven on earth. And heaven comes to earth when you do what you’re supposed to do in running a family business. The children that you produce are the product that will provide for your customers…the world around you (your church, city, school). Your children will someday be leaders in all of these areas. They will follow the guidelines that you have set before them.
Your family is a tremendous investment of both financial resources and something far more valuable…your time. It will take a lot of effort! You will have to pay attention! But God does indeed want to establish His Kingdom through your family unit. Open His Word and pour it into your children…for someday they will be leading our society to amazing places, many of which we haven’t even begun to think about.